Don't turn your house into a battlefield. Don’t trigger big discussions and fights by overstating things. Don’t poison your life as two resentful people confined in a small house in this huge world. Don’t spend your life with bickering for unimportant issues. Don’t discuss, don’t bicker, surrender and be saved…
Complain with big cases so that you haven’t time for small issues. Let Islam be your biggest case. Don’t forget! Allah makes the world the only trouble for those who don’t complain with the trouble of Islam. Keep in mind; everyone has a basket of trouble on his/her back. Fill your basket with the trouble of Islam and Ummah so that there is no space left for worldly troubles, dissension, mother in law – father in law fights…
End the fights in your home with Islam. Don’t miss peace from your home. You can have a large house, new furniture, curtains. You can have the latest white goods. But if you don't have peace in your home, you will be unhappy as if you live in a ruin. Peace is in Islam and Islam turns into peace when it is lived…
Resentments and discussions are the biggest sources of exiguousness in your homes. Don't miss abundance from your home. Abundance is in peace. Abundance is in tender-mindedness and in good morality. Abundance is in apologizing and making a new start. Abundance is in respect to elders. Abundance is in contenting yourself with your livelihood. Abundance is in staying away from sins. Abundance is in honoring guests. Abundance is in halal earning and halal bite…
Don’t desire each one. Don’t have a grudge. Don’t revenge. Don’t persist on your own wants. Don’t persist for calling your tune. What will happen if your tune is called or your spouse’s tune is called after the tune of Islam is called in your house? What does it matter whose tune is called if Islam’s tune isn’t…
Have just one redline, one verge, one principle to each other and let that be Islam. Don’t make life miserable for both of you with untruth redlines, nonsensical principles, injudicious verges, meaningless rules and obsessions which are irrelevant to Islam…
Don't hesitate to be defeat against your spouse and take a step back by disagreements with him/her as long as it isn’t against Islam. Don’t be afraid of letting call the tune of your spouse as long as it isn’t against Islam. Even if you are right in a discussion, if it isn’t against Islam, say to your spouse that he/she is right and make your partner happy. If you love your spouse, you will see that even if you turn out to be in the wrong, you will be happy with his/her happiness…
Don’t forget! Every righteousness and triumph you obtain by belittling your own spouse, making him unjust and disgrace him will return to you as unrest, fight, revenge and great defeat. To make your spouse justify and happy in Islamic lines is more profitable and more Muslim than satisfying your soul by justifying yourself…
If you want to increase fondness among you, first of all, respect each other’s parents. Resentment and disagreement with your mother in law and your father in law are enough to make your own life unbearable lifelong. As long as you continue these problems, you won’t need another problem in order to spend a long life uneasy…
Don’t forget! Fights that come first which are impossible to win are mother in law – father in law fights. Don’t attempt a fight that you can’t win. Surrender and be saved, because surrendering is respecting elders. And that is a commandment, because our Allah commands to not to say even an ‘ugh’ to our parents. If you don’t surrender in this fight, you will be obliged to be defeated in other fronts of your life, because Allah takes his help and abundance form ones who don’t respect elders…
Make peace at home so that you can fight outside. Surrender at home so that you can pick up outside. Every surrendering in house is a great victory outside if you don’t violate the borders of Islam…
This article is a summons for Muslim spouses.