While child education progresses in schools with certain standards, within the framework of certain rules and principles and with certain methods, the situation in the family is entirely related to the approaches of the parents. We have nothing to do but pray for our generation, who was wasted between the standards of educational institutions and the delight of unconscious parents.
While each of our children should be treated as a separate world, we cannot feel sorry for our offspring who are grounded with a wholesale approach. In this equation, if you ask, "Is it a very bad education system or parents who lack consciousness, do more harm to child development", I would say parents. Because after the wrong foundation is laid, the quality of the building you climb on does not mean much.
I will try to explain the state of education in the equation of family and educational institutions through an example. I have three children aged three, eight and thirteen. May Allah make all of our children among his righteous servants who do the best works in his path, and do not show their pain. One of the most important points of child development in our belief is to gain the habit of prayer.
Of course, we heard a lot about inculcating the habit of prayer, we listened to different recommendations, we trusted the teachers, we believed in the courses, we had expectations from the teachers, but we never had a clear idea about how it would be. In other words, what should we do as parents so that our child starts to pray regularly.
Especially at a time like this, when our young people are running away from Islam. For years, whenever I think about it, whenever we talk to my wife, we haven't had a clear plan in our minds about what we should do. In the meantime, we tried a lot of things. We got support from their teachers, we tried summer Quran courses and training camps. Of course, they all made their own contributions.
Basically, we thought we'd start with evening prayers at home. We wanted to not be too pushy. We tried to perform the prayers in congregation. From time to time, we tried to have short conversations about "why should we pray". To be frank, I personally have always lived with fear and still am. I'm always afraid if it will turn away from religion or turn away from prayer. Thank God things are going well for now, but I don't know what will happen tomorrow, so I pray for him in every prayer.
Thankfully, my eldest son started to pray on his own will, saying "raise me up for the morning prayer" before going to bed. I would like to share with you some of my experiences related to this issue that I attach great importance to, within the framework of the educational institutions and family equation I mentioned at the beginning. First of all, the habitual center of important matters such as prayer is not the school but the house. At home, parents should set an example by performing their prayers first. You cannot work on your own child without discovering it.
I mean, the methods and methods you hear from right to left do not have the same effect on every child. Do not trust those who say, "Give your child chocolate and sugar to get them used to prayer". If you do this, tomorrow someone else will do something different with cake and pie, God forbid. Your child won't listen to what you say without loving you. Do not expect your child to love you without spending quality time with you.
Never miss the prayer, patiently leave it to time. Follow the circle of friends remotely and imperceptibly. Especially spiritual training camps are very important. It is very important for them to pray together with their friends in camps like this, spend time together and listen to advice from their beloved teachers.
In addition, the people who speak and explain the prayer, be they parents or teachers, should be good, moral, honest people who act within the framework of rights and justice, speak as they think and do what they say. Otherwise, believe me, it is better for them to keep silent and talk. In short, family first, especially for spiritual education.