Our children are the average of their family, the region they live in, the school environment, their friends and relatives. When we get angry with our children, we actually get angry with the environment they grew up in and everyone they are in contact with. From this point of view, we have to know that there are many reasons that we need to review before listing complaints about our children. This is where what we call education and training comes into play. The main subject of education is to correct what bad habits our children have acquired from whatever environment or from whom, and to transform them into correct behaviors over time. Since education is a process work, it is not right to expect positive behaviors from today to tomorrow. We have no choice but to work patiently and meticulously and leave it to time.
First of all, if there is a wrong behavior, we have to see that our child does not invent this behavior himself and at the same time does not always know the right thing. If he hadn't seen any wrongdoing, if he had been directed correctly, it might not have been like this. The first thing to do in this case is to listen, but really, carefully, to listen to find the source of the problem. To listen to our children in a qualified period of time by looking into their eyes and making them feel that we take them seriously. Listening by making him feel that we want to help him, that we love him, that we strive for him. You cannot even imagine what they will say when we make our children feel that we are listening sincerely. We have to know that we can't solve problems without understanding what kind of world they live in, their dreams, feelings, and how they feel. Good listening will help our children pour out their hearts. Good listening will make many of our children happy for the first time to be taken seriously. A good listening will open the doors to solving problems. A good listening is a harbinger of good days to come.
Now it's time to ask the right questions to our children who think and feel that they are really being listened to. The right questions will be instrumental in reaching the subconscious of our children and therefore getting to the source of the problems. The right questions will enable our children to think, make comparisons, and find the necessary answers to acquire the right behaviors. Now our children will really start to think. There is no problem that the thinking child cannot solve. Our duty is nothing more than to guide our children by making them think and reason. It would be much more beneficial to approach today's new generation as a friend and to talk with the intention of consultation rather than with the command. Especially if you want to make progress with young people born after 2000, it would be much more beneficial to communicate with them horizontally rather than vertically. Instead of telling that a behavior is right or wrong, it is much more important for our child to find it by thinking for himself, for the right behavior to enter a permanent development process.
The most crucial point of the subject is this: our children should not be afraid of their parents or teachers when they see them, they should respect them, think that they want to help them, and listen to them with love and ear. He should know that they are talking and struggling because they love themselves and think for their well-being. In fact, they should feel that they do not want to punish, that they do not want to force things to happen, that they are just struggling to grow up as good individuals so that they can develop and practice the right behaviors knowingly, willingly and fully convinced. Otherwise, children who are forced to act right today may turn into completely different individuals when they first consider their freedom. A good deed only gains meaning when a person's intentions are sincere. There is no meaning and no reward for any good that is carried out in the form. Remember, the results of education sometimes begin to be seen after all graduations.