A person has ninety positive traits, but we make an effort to dig a hole with a needle and find and criticize a negative trait. Unfortunately, we have such a cruel side towards each other… We are human and we want our positive sides to be liked and appreciated, which is an extremely human condition as long as it does not exceed the limits of sobriety. Appreciating an adult or a child's effort motivates them and helps reinforce positive behavior. So, why do we withhold this goodness from each other?
Especially when children behave correctly, praising them verbally, smiling and hugging them is much more important and effective than financial reward. A correct and appropriate word of affirmation strengthens the child's performance and gives him encouragement. However, our parents make negative observations in their relationships with children, as they do with adults, and they believe that criticism is more effective than appreciation. Parents often see children as extensions of themselves and put great expectations on them by imposing on them what they want to do but cannot do. When children cannot meet their expectations, they compare them with their peers, criticize them and break their resistance. Unfortunately, our people, who cannot break the shell of these strict rules that have been carried on from generation to generation, see criticism as an educational tool and shoot children over their mistakes.
However, psychiatrists and educators emphasize that reward is much more effective than punishment in human education, and they state that good things should be appreciated and supported. Because the appreciated child is self-confident, feels loved and valued, and carries these internalized values to his relationships with people. It is the right of every human being to be appreciated, regardless of age or position, and should be returned to the rightful owner. We are all students and educators of this life, and the word of appreciation and approval is a power and a key that will contribute to our lives in this process. When we take the right step, we expect our behavior to be appreciated, and when we receive the reward we expect, we are pleased. This is an extremely human situation. In childhood, when learning is faster, we need words of approval more and we are strengthened and courageous by the expressions poured from the hearts of our elders.
Long story short: Criticism and criticism have a destructive effect, while appreciation with a consistent and balanced style is constructive and helps reinforce positive behavior. Appreciation strengthens, criticism creates distrust and weakens. Therefore, let's not avoid appreciating our relatives, friends and children and give them the value they deserve.