“Educated, well-read people do no harm” said our elders. This discourse of them gained such a place in our minds that it made us unconditional trust to every schooled people. But when the people who were educated in the most reputable universities of our country confront us with murder, violence, favoritism, malpractice and immoral problems, many questions like why? how? what will happen after now? come up to our minds. Even we go on to ask these questions, the system of education can’t raise generations who has moral values, who are virtuous, and who act with we-feelings. “Me generation” studying in the most reputable universities go on to live in one-man islands.
In old times, most of our mothers were illiterate but when they act against disposition, they became conscientiously uncomfortable and corrected their behaviors. “Respect” was being taught to children raised by these mothers. How an important and needful value is respect! This value being underrated by the zero generation comprises almost any humanitarian trait.
So, what is respect? Respect isn’t just giving your seat to old people in the bus. Besides this, respect is conforming to human rights, coddling to elder, weak and old people, taking kindness in consideration in human relations, protecting rights of parents, don’t interrupting elder people, being able to apologize for your fault, solving problems by discussing with reasonable expressions. Respect is to avoid behaviors that the other side wouldn’t like in human relations and to understand their feelings. It is accepting people’s feeling and thoughts as how they are. Or it is being able to give people their rights that they deserve regardless their belief, thought, or ideology. Each moral value is like a piece of a diamond, and respect is like a container that protects these values. Because our elders attribute a specific value to the concept of respect, they didn’t face much with today’s problems and they could get help from each other if necessary.
Do you remember the moral lesson at school and the inscription of “getting along with friends” in school reports in old times? Children were encouraged to establish intimate relations with their friends and to respect their rights. It is seen that children with we-oriented relations in their family are less inclined to problems like violence and hatred. According to “me generation,” these values belong to dreamland heroes and are past. These children build their life on “me,” and don’t give any place to others in their life. Unfortunately neither at schools nor in families there aren't any nurture methods children can being improved with. While education and work life of children become the main point of parents and educators, nobody cares about the attitudes and behaviors of them… Children putt across the competition and they receive education in law, medicine and engineering branches, and they don’t let down the elders. But our complaints never end. The doctor reprimands his/her patient, the instructor commits violence to his/her student, and the engineer batters his wife…
In the previous days, there has happened an incident that justificatory our apprehensions. A law student murdered a young educator in her room. If everything went right, this villain would have been an advocate we resorted to.
The “me generation” which is fed with fast food, which spend most of his/her time on the computer, which is apolitical and can’t accommodate to social surroundings see violence as a kind expression. Instead of communicating, they batter, raise their voices and they threaten. This is because they belief that they are more precious than everything and they interiorize, assimilate this thought with the influence of their family and school. As for that, parents and educational institutions don’t, can’t make any investment to their human side. On the contrary they inflate their egos and push them to the well of narcissism.