Fatma Tuncer: "We all need mercy"

Fatma Tuncer: "We all need mercy"
Date: 19.10.2022 17:00

Milli Gazete columnist Fatma Tuncer writes on child education. Here is the full article.

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A prominent psychiatrist states that the mental age of the population is between 7 and 11 and explains the kinship of the unpleasant images we encounter with this condition. The psychiatrist, who has a say in his field, states that the main reason for the tendency to crime, violations of rights, and hate crimes stems from our inability to raise mischievous children who are stuck in adult bodies, and states that physical and mental maturation should go in parallel. Strangely enough, many people around us who have reached a certain level of maturity play the role of that naughty child in the emotional world, and this conflict is reflected in the outside world in different ways.
 
As it is known, during the age of 7-11, the child likes competition, makes fun of his friend's flaws, calls names, makes fun of him. The child feeds on the crush of the friend he mocks and feels strong and competent. In this critical process, the family or the teacher should activate the child's sense of compassion and guide him to establish empathetic relationships with his peers. Otherwise, the child will perceive the violation of rights as a power and will tend to make big mistakes in his future life. Children's feelings of empathy are weak, so they cannot think that their attitudes can hurt the other side. However, despite this, they are open to learning, so it should be given importance to personality education, which the Messenger of Allah focused on meticulously during this period.
 
A child who has not developed a sense of empathy may make fun of his friend, exhibit attitudes that will humiliate him and feel strong and competent. In such cases, parents or educators should intervene in the event and explain to the child that this is not a power but a violation of rights, in a way they can understand, and they should mobilize their conscience. Otherwise, the child will continue this overwhelming attitude no matter what social environment or position he occupies in his future life.
 
We encounter the outbursts of mischievous children trapped in the adult world in almost every field, but we did not think that such a problem could arise in the intensive care unit of a hospital. But what a pity that we witnessed such an event in the past few days. We were stunned by the images of health workers making fun of an old woman who had lost her health and strength of resistance and making fun of a bear in the circus. We can understand that behind those cold walls there are many screams that have been polished, but we can neither reach out nor make our voices heard. Fortunately, social media comes in handy in such situations, and we can access these images, albeit in trace amounts.
 
How do you feel when you see a person who has come face to face with death? A pain appears in your conscience and you want to reach out to the helpless person and take part in their prayers, right? So, where are you going to put these buffoons, who make fun of the helplessness of an old woman who has difficulty even breathing in the intensive care unit? Now will you claim that these murderers carry human identity!
 
I would like to express clearly that; The expressions of hatred on the faces of those charlatans who made fun of the patient's helplessness in the images on social media were like a dark nightmare and triggered my fears. It was as if they had never made contact with their conscience and completely resigned from humanity, they were so cruel that they took great pleasure in stabbing the dagger in their hearts into the heart of a woman who could barely breathe. Obviously, their paths had never crossed with mercy, and they were making indecent statements, asking questions, offending a woman who had come face to face with death, and killing her while she was alive. Those people who were dragged after the sick child they carried inside were trying to make fun out of a woman's fall...
 
Individuals working in all institutions and organizations of the state are expected to be fair, consistent and conscientious, and those working in health institutions need to be more sensitive and give confidence in this regard. But, unfortunately, our educational institutions train individuals only in the professional field, cannot feed them on virtue and virtues… And the statements of our elders that a learned man can not harm them completely lose their validity.

YEREL HABERLER

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