These days, my e-mail address receives messages from mothers who are looking for a solution to save their drug-addicted children from this pit.
Mothers state that they provide all kinds of opportunities for children to adhere to religious values and traditions, but they lose them when they reach school age, and they emphasize the damage caused by the uncontrolled use of social media. Mothers state that their children are victims of the wrong friends they have made here, but that the treatment of substance addiction is quite long and troublesome.
As we all know, the system that dominates our lives has imposed an individualistic understanding by belittling the lifestyles nourished by ancient values, and has melted the values that hold people together and are a source of morale for the sake of their passions and passions.
The individualism approach, which was imposed by being associated with the concept of freedom, broke the dynamics that nourish and keep people fit and dragged them into a quest.
The individualist understanding saw the other as a burden and ignored it… He said there is only you, you are everything… Well, if there is no other, with what will I cultivate the lofty values I carry? Who will I share what with? Isn't the place where the other is not a desolate, barren and dangerous desert? So who am I going to empathize with here?
The prevailing understanding elevated our sense of self and severed our ties with the other, and this situation led to the spread of problems such as loneliness, depression, anxiety disorder and substance abuse. We cannot remain indifferent to the event by saying that my child does not tend to such things.
The world has turned into a small village and a problem that arises at the equator soon reaches the whole world and becomes a common problem. Substance addiction, which has become the problem of the age like the deadly virus, is spreading rapidly all over the world. Today, a mother from the USA and a mother from Turkey both complain about the same problem…
So what can be done? What about the parents who are looking for a solution? Should they imprison the child in the house? Shall they chain his feet and cut him off from his peers? Should they isolate them from society? What should they do?
Parents and educators have to accept that the most effective way to reach children is love, establish healthy relationships with them and set goals to fill the gap. Love is an effective elixir that remains valid in all ages and under all conditions.
Psychiatrists state that the vast majority of substance-addicted children are children who are exposed to family problems and grow up without love. But today, we see that children living in good conditions are also curious or envious of their friends and fall into this trap.
Because the emotional fluctuations brought about by the age of the young person, the influence of friends and the spiritual emptiness have a great effect on their tendency to such habits.
When the young man opens up to the outside world, he gradually loses the values he acquired from the family and uses drugs to attract attention, to fit in with the group, to get pleasure, and when he realizes that what he takes pleasure from is a deadly weapon, he tries to get out of the business.
Our children are crossing a dangerous road surrounded by fire on both sides. The danger is right there, one step away… Danger is everywhere… Our children need to pay attention and act in a controlled manner so that they can walk without touching the fire.
Parents should support him with their love in this regard. We must admit that; we can only protect our children with prayer and love, we cannot go beyond that...