Human is like a multi-layered mountain, a compelling riddle to be understood. It is the person behind the visible, not the visible. But you always communicate with the visible, decide according to the visible, and maintain your relationship through the visible.
A man tells one of his pastures and throws four in the backyard. He lives his life well beyond what appears. You say hurt, touch the wound, bleed, you break it, but it does not give any color, takes the traumatized feelings in the palm of your hand and throws into the backyard. You're judging, you say bad, you say droopy, you say your emotions are dull, you say you didn't behave closely, you say that the expression was tough, but you never see the mourning in the backyard.
Some of our lives open to the community and the other to the backyard. The backyard is a secret world where our secrets, our privacy, our pains, our resentments and our experiences. When we are unable to carry the pain, we go to a therapist or a therapist who understands the situation and opens the backyard with his own methods. Then we slowly lower the face on our back and start life again.
You can not understand people without entering them in their back gardens, you can not communicate with them healthy, but you act with prejudices... If you could enter the backyard of the person you hit the ground from your accusations, prejudices and would approach it with compassion.
In our culture, there is a discourse of being in the right place. You cannot immediately understand the person you are not, see the reasons that differentiate him, and make fair decisions on his behalf. So before you make a decision about a person, try to understand what is happening in his backyard and maintain your relationships accordingly.
Our prejudices lead us to abuse and to have negative feelings about people. Then why prejudice? Because understanding a person is like going a long way. Understanding, listening, empathizing and looking at people through conscience is a sacrifice. A person escapes easily, judges his interlocutor mercilessly, makes the right wrong decisions about him and declares him evil without ever knowing him. In this way, he tries to relax by suppressing his complexes and he thinks that he is superior and more special. Isn't it forbidden to commit suicide? It is forbidden, but we humans hide behind the excuses we produce and continue to insist on evil. And this attitude returns to us as lack of communication, insensitivity and conflict.