“Self-compassion”, which expresses one's acceptance of himself as he is and being able to show himself the compassion he shows towards living things, is different from self-love, which feeds arrogance and selfishness. Because in self-love, the person admires his own body and self and believes that he has superior characteristics than others. Self-loving people, who show an overwhelming approach in their relations with people, try to attract all the attention in their environment and act with the instinct of being liked. Self-loving individuals believe that only they deserve love and attention and see others only as a tool. Self-compassion, on the other hand, is to realize the position of the person and the sublime values he has and to give himself the value he deserves.
Interestingly, self-compassion was not an accepted value in Islamic societies, on the contrary, it was excluded and despised. Muslims, caught in the grip of superstitions and avoiding liberation, have devalued themselves by wearing them with various patches instead of claiming the values bestowed by Allah. However, our Almighty Lord has chosen human beings in the realm of existence, attributed a special value to human beings, and assigned him the responsibility of establishing justice.
Do servants have the right to ignore this value that Allah attributes?
It is impossible to understand! Why do you dethrone yourself from this special throne bestowed by God and imprison yourself in dilapidated cellars? Are you aware? You are ignoring the value that your creator has bestowed upon you! Raise your head and take a look at the land of values you carry on your chest! So, are you able to realize the value your Creator attributes to you now? If you know this value from yourself, of course, there will be problems, but if you know from where and from whom the essence you carry in your nature and the blessings that rain on you comes from, and if you surrender, it will not belittle you, on the contrary, it will elevate you.
Self-love and arrogance is a bad trait, and giving yourself the value you deserve is justice. But for some reason, you ignore the wonders you carry on you and act with your stereotypes.
Have you ever been startled by the voices of children resounding in your ears at an unexpected time and proceeded in the direction your heart took, right? You have come out with your mercy and patted a child's head, cooled a mother's heart, and brought smiles to a poor person's face. However, you have avoided showing yourself the same support, the same contribution, the same compassion, as arrogance. You have been extremely cruel to yourself and have hurt your feelings by ignoring them.
Positive psychology predicts revealing the strengths, not the weaknesses, of the person and gaining a positive perspective towards himself by improving the awareness of the individual. This approach necessitates highlighting and developing many positive features such as fairness, confidence, optimism, hope, love, patience and compassion, which are present in human genetic codes. However, for this, each individual should know that he or she has a right in these values and should shape his/her life accordingly.