Fatma Tuncer: "Your behavior is like a book"

Fatma Tuncer: "Your behavior is like a book"
Date: 25.11.2019 17:00

Milli Gazete columnist Fatma Tuncer writes on human behavior. Here is the full article.

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The concept of mirroring is a very important concept in terms of modeling and internalization of positive behaviors. Because without realizing it, we are all mirroring and imitating. We move from two points while mirroring occurs. 1. We share a success with another and leave an impact on the other side. 2. We imitate or imitate our attitudes, behaviors, feelings and thoughts to the other party.
 
Behaviors are living information that shows fluidity in life. We speak with praise of the person we love, we like, he was a hero, he was good and virtuous, he was very successful, he was liked by everyone, he used expressions like smart and agile and we would like to imitate and behave the loved one's behavior. Mirroring is a situation that develops spontaneously in natural life and of course contributes to our lives. However, for this, the person we mirror must have the right person with beliefs, attitudes and behaviors.
 
In order to have a healthy and consistent personality, we need to live together and communicate with people. We learn and adopt the concepts of good and evil as a result of the relationships we establish with our own species. In other words, the human being is not only the mirror of the human being, but also the trainer and the companion. So, when does this process begin? This process starts in the first years of life and continues throughout life. Because we are all active instructors of life, we continue to teach each other things.
 
When the child is three years old, he begins to imitate family members or people he sees outside. It reflects the attitudes and behaviors of the parents and starts to form the cornerstones of his personality. In adolescence, young people take action to move the foundation that they established during childhood to a more solid ground. During this period, the young person starts to choose the people he will imitate from outside, not family members. He starts to internalize the behaviors of the people he likes and the way he relates to people.
 
Adopting and internalizing a behavior after blindly imitating a behavior through a filter of consciousness is different. A three-year-old child can unconsciously mimic the behavior of individuals who mirror him. But in adolescence, the teenager is now well equipped to distinguish the good from the bad, so the model must pass the good-bad filter and then adopt the behavior it takes. In order to make the right decision about the role model, the young person must have the consciousness to distinguish between good and bad concepts before childhood. For this, families must give the child the will education at an early age and introduce them to the right role models. Parents should explain to the child that blindly imitating a person's behavior is not the same as modeling a correct behavior.

YEREL HABERLER

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