Fatma Tuncer: "Your style is your identity"

Fatma Tuncer: "Your style is your identity"
Date: 19.2.2023 14:00

Milli Gazete columnist Fatma Tuncer writes on deadly earthquake in Turkey. Here is the full article.

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While trying to share the hope in the eyes of the people who were pulled out alive from the rubble, I was startled by a voice that crushed the pain. Everything changed in an instant…
 
A sharp and high-pitched sound spread like a dark mist over the mercy of thousands of people gathered in the disaster area. The lady, who is said to be a former AKP deputy, was walking towards the Mayor of Istanbul, hurling insults and threats and making her count as she threw herself forward.
 
The woman seemed to have lost control and was screaming at her best and saying, “Get out!” as if catching the thief who had burst into her farm…
 
You may think that it is out of place to mention such a subject in the midst of all this confusion, all this pain and the voices of lamentation that burns our hearts. But in recent years, we have come across such attitudes so often that we all have a few words that we say we will say when the time comes.
 
Almost everywhere, we witness people who have close ties with the ruling party, seeing themselves as the ruler of everything, and oppressing people without giving any rights and laws.
 
If you have a competence in the political field or if you have a close relationship with what is happening, you can pierce all borders and raise your voice, threaten anyone you want in any way you want, and break all established rules and make your presence felt...
 
Isn't it interesting? These images, which disturb us all, are so raw, so vulgar that our brothers are digging their wells with their own hands. Because now they have completely lost their reputation in the eyes of people, I guess this is the reason why they raise their voices so much…
 
Do not try to judge my statements in a biased way, I do not take sides, my attitude is not directed to individuals, but to the style used...
 
The lady may have something to say to her addressee, that she can express it at the appropriate time and in a style appropriate to her title, and even confront her addressee. We have nothing to say about it. However, while all members of the society are mourning the people who died together with the city, a person cannot and should not act according to his inner conflicts, complexes and interests and exhibit actions that will trigger violence.
 
I am against this rude style, this attitude that lacks manners, courtesy, understanding and dignity, and I believe that there should be a framework and nobility in our fights as well as our conversations.
 
The style we use in our relationships with people who do not have the same belief, thought, or ideology as us also reveals our personal maturity, our sense of fairness, and our perception of the limits of the other. We shake hands with our friends in every situation, and in our relationships with people who are distant between us, we can come together and talk reasonably in our pain and joy, even if we are not in the same closeness.
 
In order to achieve this, you need to remove the fascist crumbs that prevent the development of your compassion and sense of right, and accept that there is a door to love in the hearts of all people and act accordingly. As you know, our Beloved Prophet built his relations with people on this model and, until the end of his life, he made an effort to open this door, which is inherent in people, and respected the rights of whoever he was addressing.
 
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You may remember… A few years ago, pictures of the former German chancellor were published, showing him picking fruit at the street market where the public was shopping.
 
You can state that the person in question is a part of the global organization and you can refer to the person's ambivalent attitude towards Muslim peoples, of course we agree on this issue, but the point I'm emphasizing here is that a country's prime minister can reduce his lifestyle to the same standard as his people.
 
As a matter of fact, in those images, there was a lady who came out of her house in a plain dress and chose fruit in the street market with the people. He didn't need attention from people, he didn't raise his voice or draw attention to himself in order to repair his inner conflicts and complexes.
 
He left his presidential identity in the place where he carried out his work and joined the people with his citizen identity and lived in the same conditions as them. He was a commoner and was going to do his shopping and go home.
 
Our politicians, who look down on the public with this image with their comfortable lives, and their sons and daughters who make great fortunes without even moving their hands, should criticize the girls and know that they cannot achieve success without coming together with their people.
 
As you know, our politicians do not visit the public areas often, but if they do, they raise their voices, give orders, criticize and make their presence felt. They live in luxurious palaces, comfortable places, fly to America by allocating a plane for shopping, close stores and crush their people with their arrogance. That's how things work in our neighborhood.

YEREL HABERLER

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