When children cannot get what they want, they can use anger as a tool, where the mother should step in and tell her children to express their demands naturally.
By the time children reach school age, they must learn to control anger.
In order to control anger in children, consider the following recommendations:
Remove the child from uncomfortable environments. Because he will not feel safe here and will respond with anger.
Develop some strategies when the child begins to show signs of anger. Give him a glass of water, tell a comforting story, take him to a place the child desires.
If the child is angry with his-her friend, ask why and try to calm him-her down.
Encourage the child to play a favorite game and let them discharge.
Do not give advice to the child in anger, give him the opportunity to convey his feelings. Ask what she wants to do, where she wants to be.
Don't underestimate her feelings, let her feel that you understand her.
If she is telling an incident she experienced with a friend and expressing her anger, listen to her first and then ask her questions about her friend to make her empathize.
Ask how you can help her.
Do not make accusatory statements to the child, say that I can understand you.
PREVENT ANGRY TURNING INTO VIOLENCE
If the child has become unable to control her anger and turns it into violence, intervene here and inform her about the boundaries.
Explain to the child that they can express their feelings naturally.
Make the child feel safe, give fairness awareness to her.
Teach them to reason their behavior before they act.
Explain to the child that it is a virtue to forgive the friend with whom they are angry.
THE REMEDY TO OVERCOME ANGRY
His Holiness The Prophet (PBUH) said: “A fierce and heroic person is not a person who brings someone else's back to the ground in wrestling. The wrestler is the only person who can control himself when he gets angry.”
Again, The Prophet (PBUH) said: "Like the substance called Sabur corrupts the honey, anger corrupts faith.”
The Prophet (PBUH) said in another hadith: "When a person is angry, he will definitely approach Hell." (Bazzar and Ibn Adi)
While the danger for human beings in anger is at this level, it is inevitable for him to try his best to eliminate this danger for his safety.
Paying attention to the following reminders are the main points that will help people overcome their anger.
It is to think about the words that have been conveyed so far. In this respect, he forbids himself from comforting himself by taking revenge against the reward obtained from swallowing anger, and therefore extinguishes his raging anger.
Umar b. Abdulaziz ordered a man to be beaten. Then that man recited the verse "They swallow their anger" (Al-i Imran, 134). Thereupon, Omar ordered his servant to "release him".
It is to frighten one's soul with the punishment of Almighty Allah. It is as follows: ‘The strength and power of Almighty Allah against me is greater than my strength and power I have against this person.’ He should say, 'I am not sure that Almighty Allah will not use his anger against me on the Day of Judgment when I most need forgiveness, if I inflict my anger on this person'.
It is thinking that the end of acting with anger will lead to sitting with harm. Thus, he protects himself from the suffering of both material and spiritual losses and the pain of regret that he will feel later.
In this respect, whenever a person swallows his anger, it is appropriate to swallow his anger only for the sake of Almighty Allah. If he swallows his anger with this intention, he will be extremely valuable in the eyes of Almighty Allah. In this case, what is the importance of being valuable in the presence of people! The humiliation that will befall him on the Day of Judgment will be more severe, as will cause him to become angry with himself in the world. I wonder if a person will stand up on the Day of Judgment, "He who has a reward in the sight of Almighty Allah!" Doesn't he want to be the one who stands up when he is called? Because only those who forgive in the world can stand up to this call. The likes of this and it are among the virtues of faith. It is necessary to place them in the heart.
Ibn Abbas narrated that the Prophet (PBUH) said: “When you are angry, shut up!” (Imam Ahmed, Ibn Abi Dunya, Tabarani)
This beautiful advice of our Prophet (PBUH) is a beautiful application that protects people from making bigger mistakes in anger, and that provides more profit with less effort.